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The Sabotage Audit

A twenty-minute worksheet to map your own patterns: where you stall, what you feel right before, and the payoff the sabotage gives you. You can't cha…

Avoidance & comfort zones Discipline & follow-through Fear of failure Fear of success Habits & willpower Money & career Overthinking & rumination Perfectionism Procrastination Self-worth & the inner critic

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Articles

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How to keep a promise to yourself

The real reason you procrastinate

Why we sabotage the things we want most

Perfectionism is a stalling tactic

Techniques

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Coach yourself in the third person

If-then plans (implementation intentions)

The two-minute start

The five-second rule

Videos

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Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

A short, grounded talk about staying in the game, and what grit implies about how to treat failure.

A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit

A calm, practical talk for anyone whose bad habit shrugs off sheer effort. The tool is curiosity, not force.

How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over

The talk where the 'five second rule' first took shape. Blunt, tough-love, and useful for anyone waiting to feel ready.

Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator

The funniest, most accurate map of the procrastinating brain going around, and a sharp point about the goals that have …

Tools

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The fear-setting worksheet

The 10-10-10 decision check

The trigger–action plan builder

The not-to-do list

Books

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The Gifts of Imperfection

Brown's research on shame and worthiness, turned into a practical case for dropping perfectionism and the belief that y…

The War of Art

A short, punchy book that gives self-sabotage a name and a face. Pressfield calls it Resistance, and once you can see i…

Steven Pressfield

Atomic Habits

The most practical habits book going. Clear's core idea, that you fall to the level of your systems rather than rising …

Self-Compassion

The researcher who put self-compassion on the map makes the case, with evidence, that kindness beats harsh self-critici…

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